“If you don’t stand for something son, you will fall for anything.” A famous quote that I find myself saying to my teenage sons very often. I’ve been saying this to them since they were still in the womb.
I’ve lived my life trying to do all that I can to please and make everyone else happy. Thinking that if I do this, someone will be mad at me. If I don’t, they will be mad. If I call out, the job wont be happy. If I say no, that person wont be happy. If I say yes that person will be happy. Etcetera, Etcetera, Etcetera, Yadda, Yadda, Yadda.
At what point do I say F standing for everyone else and stand for myself? At what point do I stand for what is right, for me? At what point do I stand for what my mind and my heart is telling me to do? When do I stop fearing the consequences of choosing me over them? That answer is, NOW!
If it is one thing that this 2020 Covid 19 pandemic has taught me it is that, time does not care about us. We are dispensable. We can be here today and gone tomorrow. Job today, replaced tomorrow. No matter how much we do right we can be replaced by the snap of a finger.
While we sit back, think and question ourselves on what we should do, life goes on and the world continues. A job is always going to think about and put their bottom line first. People are always going to put themselves first. And that leaves you sitting back wondering who and what to stand for. How about this, STAND FOR YOUR DAMN SELF!
Stop thinking about the consequences all of the time. Yes I get it, you want to make the right decision. But I have a question, what is the right decision when your health is on the line? What is the right decision when you mental stability is on the line? If something happens to you and you don’t even make it to see another day, what does any of this matter? Yup you got it, it doesn’t matter at all.
The advice I give to you I am applying to myself as well. I’ve had a rough week having to make decisions regarding things in my life. This morning as I woke up the little person sitting on my shoulder looked me into my eyes and told me to get myself together. To stop thinking of everyone and everything else and put myself first. Do what I want to do. And today that is exactly what I did and it felt great.
So I say that to say this, Stand for something or fall for anything.” Start telling people “No.” Use your PTO time at work and call out. Do more of what you want. Live! I have two questions for you. Who will you stand for? What will you stand for?
I’ll leave you with a few quotes that I’ve come across from unknown authors,
“Life is a game, play it. Life is a challenge, meet it. Life is an opportunity, capture it.”
“Quit hanging onto the handrails, let go, surrender. Go for the ride of your life. Do it everyday.”
“Somebody should tell us right at the start of our lives, that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit, every minute of everyday. Do it! Whatever you want to do, do it now. There are only so many tomorrows.”
As I always say, this is simply my perspective and the thoughts that are on my mind. I never expect for you to agree with me nor will I judge you for your opinion. I do not participate in negativity, drama and bashing another person. I welcome and enjoy conversation so please leave a comment and lets talk.