Not everybody really cares “How you are,” or “what you are up to.” Some people just want to be nosey and/or see if you are doing better than them.
When they do, just kindly let them know, “Im good!” Don’t give to much, don’t give to little information. Give them just enough. If they are interested and genuinely care they will stay and be there.
I’ve learned that when people genuinely care about your well being and what you are up to they are around and stay around. They don’t come around then go then come back asking, “What are you up to?”
I use to answer those questions with no problem, nowadays I give just enough information to let them know that I am ok, doing well. Mostly because most of them didn’t really care. They were just being nosey.
You don’t talk to them for who knows how long then all of a sudden they pop up fishing for information. Now before anyone says well maybe they really want to know. Yes, this is true some do want to know and do care, but its fact that some don’t. But it us up to you to decipher which are genuine and which aren’t. Because as I stated, some just want to be nosey and make sure that you are not doing better than them.
As you grow and become wiser you are able to decide who is genuine and who is not. Just keep your eyes open and pay attention.
Q and A
How do I decide if someone is genuine? I don’t always have the answers. I just have lessons learned over the years. I use my personal experiences and try to make a judgement. I ask myself questions like: Have they been around? Do they come around? Do they really care? Are they genuine? Why are they asking?
After talking to yourself and answering your own questions, make your own judgement.
“EVERYONE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. Pay close attention.”
-Andre’a MsDraya Daniels
As I always say… These are just my thoughts, my perspective because, I am, just me MsDraya!