Help me understand!

Why do people choose to hurt people? Instead of walking away from situations, why choose to hurt people? And I say “Choose” because your actions are a result of a decision that you make with your adult brain.

What do people get out of hurting other people? Does it make you feel better? What do you get out of it in the long run? Do you even think about and contemplate the consequences or pain that is felt?

Now it is no secret that I have been hurt and done wrong in my life. But at this point in my life I am no longer upset or bothered by it. Yes I think about it but only to reflect on my life, to better my life.

The reason I ask this question is because, as I scrolled down my timeline on my facebook I came across a picture of a guy I once had a thing for. In the picture he was happily engaged smiling with his fiance. Yes I was happy for them but in my head I questioned why when we met he made me believe that he wanted me, only to learn that at home he has a fiance and a child, a family.

Now let me stop and say. I AM NOT A HOMEWRECKER, I AM NOT A SIDE PIECE, THE SIDE WOMAN whatever you want to call it. Yes in all caps because I need that to be known and understood. I do not ever want to be the reason for someone elses downfall or hurt in their life. Karma always has a way of coming back.

But back to it. So yes I seen this picture and while yes I was happy for them I felt hurt for myself all over again. Why? Because when I met him I was under the impression that he was a single man even after asking multiple times, and he began to grow on me. Now before anyone asks, no I didn’t pick up on any secretive vibes because im not a stalker and believe that you have to learn to trust people until they give you reason to no longer trust them.

Why was I hurt? Because he grew on me and I thought that maybe we could become something. What woman doesn’t want that happily ever after. So once again I am left alone and lonely. But not only do I become hurt his fiance feels it as well. No it’s not her fault its his. But both me and her being the innocent parties not knowing the truth are left with the hurt.

All I could think to myself is, why? What was the point? What did he get out of lying?

But of course he stayed with her they worked things out and me I was left alone wondering what went wrong.

All to many times we hear and see this situation among many other situations happen and I always wonder why?

I ask this because me myself, I do not believe the hurt you cause people is worth the temporary happiness that you may feel. I never want to purposely cause hurt to anyone because I do not want it done to me.

This topic just leads me to ask the question, Why do people choose to cause hurt instead of walking away or avoiding the situation from the beginning? Do they not think of the consequences? Do they not care? What is it?

As I always say, these are just my thoughts because… I am just me MsDraya!