What are you trying to say? Just say it!

Say exactly what you mean and mean exactly what you say. PERIOD!                                      -Andre’a MsDraya Daniels

When you don’t say what you mean, and you don’t mean what you say, that makes you a liar, right? Right!

Well most of us has been raised and taught not to lie. As we get older we are still told that we shouldn’t lie, but that it is ok to tell a “white lie.”

What is a white lie? A “little” lie that is told to prevent hurting someone’s feeling. My opinion is you tell this little “white lie,” but the only person you are really lying to and hurting is yourself. You are being untrue to yourself. Who ever it is that you are lying to, couldn’t care any less because you are saying what they WANT you to say, what they want to hear. So they are happy about it and you are left unsure with yourself because what you are really saying is a lie.

Now I understand that we have to be mindful and aware of other people and their feelings, I get it. But why should we be expected to sugar or water down what we are truly thinking or what we are really feeling?

It’s like today people value being nice over being real, over the truth. Nothing frustrates me more than having to be quiet about my thoughts because people are to sensitive to hear the truth. We don’t live in boxes. We don’t live in a world where we all think and feel the same. If we were actually required to apologize for everything that other people don’t like, we would be apologizing literally everyday, including for our existence.

I have noticed that people have let other people and social media brainwash them into believing that our beliefs, our feelings are wrong.

Correct me if I am wrong but, I was under the impression that we were entitled to our own opinions and thoughts? So why do we have to apologize for it? So not only are we expected to lie about how we really feel, we are expected to apologize for being who we are. Nope! No, not me! We have to stop! We have to stop lying about who we are, what we are feeling, what we are thinking.

Now yes, I do understand being mindful of others. I do agree that we can’t just walk around saying or doing whatever we want. But I do think that if we are going to say something we should, “Say what you mean, and mean what you say.”

Those who understand perspective, and are open minded will understand. Those who don’t won’t. If you are going to say something say it and mean it. If not then to avoid telling those “White lies, ” just remain quiet about it, don’t even speak on something that you can’t tell your truth about it.

When it comes to things that are said I always say this, “If the shoe fits wear it, if it don’t apply let it fly.” We are in a society were people have become so soft and they prefer to be lied to instead of told the truth. A lie never does anyone any good. It only teaches people that lying is ok.

Question: Why are we expected to apologize for how we feel or the things that we say? I ask that because one to many times I have seen someone publicly have to apologize for something they have said and/or done. So my question is, why?

If you ask me, it is just easier to tell the truth in the beginning. Because when the truth comes out later, it is harder to deal with and you are now known as a liar.

My advice:

1. Think about what you say and do, before you say or do it.
2. Know who you are talking to, and the environment you are in.
3. Ask if your opinion is wanted or just be quiet instead of telling a “white lie.”
4. Be mindful of what you say and how you say it. There is a way of saying something that might seem mean without being mean. Its not always what you say, sometimes it is how you say it. So just be mindful.
5. Say what you mean, and mean what you say.

“We have to stop letting people and social media make us believe that we are wrong for voicing our opinions and our thoughts. We have to stop apologizing for it. Say exactly what you mean, and mean exactly what you say. Just make sure that your thoughts match your words, and match your action.                                                                               -Andre’a MsDraya Daniels

 As I always say, these are just my thoughts because… I am, just me MsDraya!